I feel like my husband is literally making me sick. We argue all the time. I just had a baby 3 weeks ago and I feel like he is not appreciative of me. I was told that it is postpartum depression, but I don’t feel any hate or depression towards the baby. I love her…it is him. Matter of fact, I started typing this question about 30-45 minutes ago. Then I stop and got into an argument with hubby. I threw his a$$ out of MY house (in my name and on my credit–he don’t work and lives off unemployment).
I have had enough with the name calling (ugly, stupid, dumb, etc.), the past physcial abuse (he just hit me in the face and tried to choke me but I punched the $#!t out of him), and him making me feel worthless and unloved (he never wants to be seen in public with me or to do nothing with me except when I had got a large tax return and he wanted some money.
Could u handle this? Is this type of treatment right? He tried to kick me in my c-section stitches and claimed that he has another woman.
My original question was going to be about something else…then this happened.
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Hes a buster. He doesnt love you, what is that… thats not love. what the fuck is that… no wonder youre depressed, you prolly dont like the baby cause it looks like his ass. Fuck his n!$$@ losen ass. That man is dirt. And dont let him come back with that I love u baby shit cause you know hes a manupulator. If anything he just wants a free place to stay. Id put his ass in jail too. Thats no way to treat a lady, its time to teach this dogg a lesson, and then be on cause this kind never changes.
Change the locks. This is not marriage….it’s chaos.
kick him out and never let him back..You don’t need that crap in your life. you deserve better. this shouldn’t even be a question. Kick him out, and never let him back
get rid of this jerk! he is abusive and children shouldnt be around him
LET HIM GO! baby girl, you and your baby don’t deserve that! he is no father figure, go for you , that you threw him out, Miss independent right here! go girl!
Why did you have that poor little baby?
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Do you really6 have to ask? Here’s the question Are you kidding me, are you so insecure that you actually put up with this more than once? What about your daughter? Do you really think that you can’t find someone else? Come on quit being the victim take control of your life, get a real one.
Tell him goodbye and by the way you can get child support out of unemployment.
Are you really good looking and thin?
Overreacting???? You ought to have him arrested and put in jail. Get a restraining order and keep him away from both you and the baby. He has no respect or love for you or he wouldn’t treat you that way. Now he claims he has another woman!! How lucky can you get? Good for him. Walk away and don’t look back. Get a lawyer or go to Legal Aid and get some advice. A man like that is not going to change and is a danger to you and your child. Physical abuse and verbal abuse are not acceptable. Go for counseling and never let anyone ever treat you in this manner again. No one deserves that behavior. (I was in a very abusive relationship years ago and was very badly beaten and had verbal abuse, as well. Leaving him and getting counseling saved my life. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Take care of yourself and your baby and never let him darken your doorway again. Good luck to you!)
WOW…….
I would get a nice 9mm and next time he wants to raise his hand or his feet toward you, you know what you have to do….
ALL I CAN DO IS SHAKE MY HEAD……TIRED OF THESE NO GOOD GUYS….
BUT…..
YOU HAVE TO USE BETTER JUDGMENT AND MAKE HIM WRAP IT UP OR BE ON BIRTH CONTROL OR SOMETHING…..
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HAVE A CHILD WITH SOMEONE LIKE THIS……
OH god… get rid of this loser and focus on your baby.. how scary it must be for the little peanut to be there when all this yelling and domestic violence is going on… do you want this baby to think this is normal? well they will… hearing and seeing it from birth…. thats just wrong.
So do right by baby and get loser out of your life, get your act together and make a life for you and baby….. you dont need some moron putting you down…. your not worthless or unloved.. that little baby loves you…. and will grow in love for you as each day goes by.
You deserve better but right now, forget men…. its about you and baby.
good luck
you need to get away from him forever. if he hits you he wont stop. i have been in the same situation. you need to get out before its to late. I would call the cops asap and tell them. get a restraining order. if he hits you, he might eventually abuse your son. or what if he hits you and your holding your son and god forbid something happenend. get out now
my younger sister of 14 was on her yahoo account and told me to answer this question.Here is my story, it may be long but stay put.
So, I was 19 and obviously, I had very high standards, even thought I was not all that pretty or rich. But I was to have an arranged marriage as per my parents wishes to some guy named raj…I did’t know who this person was or what he did, but I decided I would meet him just once. My parents arranged for us to meet. The moment I saw raj, It was magic, this had to be the most handsome, young dashing guy I had ever seen in my life, I fell in love with him before he even said "hey, I’m raj"…We walked to his car and I saw that he drove just about the hottest car ever, he drove a cross-fire and I thought "what does this guy do?". As we were driving to his house I wondered if he lived in an apartment but i was too nervous to ask so i just remained idle. When we pulled up to just about the biggest most beautiful mansion i had ever seen in my life, I almost choked on air. I was greeted by his loving, yet humongous family, (parents +4 siblings +1 grand-daughter)…It was then that i decided that not marrying this guy would be the biggest mistake of my life, I mean his father was the CEO of double tree for crying out loud!. Within 12 months, we got married and the day of our wedding was literally a dream, Everything was perfect, simply too beautiful to even put in words. For a month, we spend our honeymoon in hawaii and Egypt.
So thats my story…It has only been 4 months since we got married and I can tell you one thing, I love my family and husband more than anything but every now and then, problems do arise (i.e family issues) and sometimes they get so bad that I feel like I’m on a reality TV show half the time, I mean so much drama comes in this perfect package, At first I didn’t know how to deal, Raj’s mother seemed to argue with me every other day on "me not being worth raj’s time" but truth is raj doesn’t ever say anything to me, ever. I sometimes feel that I was not fit to the wife of a double tree heir, but He liked me too so why complain? My sister in law, (we all live together in the mansion, its a joined family) always seemed to hate me, in fact, she would argue with me until dawn over the dumbest things. But no matter what happens, raj never did blame me for anything, and I love him for that.
The main idea is, that no matter how your husband or family may be, don’t let it get in the way of having your picture-perfect family.
No I would not handle this. Our income tax cheques will be coming out soon within a couple of months. If yours is not out yet this year get out and at least you can keep your cheque for yourself. If that is all he wants from you don’t give it to him.
If what you have written is true – why are you with him and why on earth did you have a child with him? He’s an abusive bum.
To answer you, No – I ‘would’ not handle this – he would be gone (actually he wouldn’t have been there in the first place). No it is not right at all.
Call the cops on him, change the locks and get a divorce ASAP…along with a restraining order.
sorry u have to go through this – your have to cut this man out of your life . remember you are also jepardizing your baby’s safety here – call the cops next time he gets physical with you. good luck.
Leave and don’t look back. Real men don’t hit women.
you need to leave… becareful dont let your c-section get infected is very dangerous.. ask family member for help…………………
I feel for you. I am going through the same thing with my wife. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. It is my fault I was terminated from my job, it is my fault she had a hysterectemy over 20 years ago to save her life, etc. I have put on weight and I believe it is from her riding me constantly. Maybe we should ge together and leave??
leave him